Embracing Freedom: Learning to Let Go and Thrive in Life’s Journey

Each of us carries around old burdens. Letting go of them can have a liberating effect. This can be thoughts, things or even people and the process is not always easy. So to have more focus on live poker, we will help you get over things. 

In the broadest sense, letting go means leaving a piece of the past behind so you can focus on the present and look toward the future. You realize that thoughts, false dreams or wishes take you captive and take away your view for what is really important. Or you realize that the time with a loved one is over. You don’t manage to part with old things. Books, jewelry, things that have accumulated over the course of your life, but which you now realize are secretly weighing you down.

It’s important to clean up these things once in a while: they often cost you energy and strength and take up a lot of time. Even if it is only the time they spend in your thoughts. Besides, the person who holds on too tightly to the old is blocked from seeing the future.

Letting go is not always an easy process, sometimes even a very painful one. You give up habits, security, memories, maybe even love for another person. But this process can help you feel freer in the end.

WHY DO YOU NEED TO LET GO?

It is difficult to find the right moment to let go. And only you can make that decision. However, it helps to talk about it with others. Their perspective can give you a different perspective. Maybe it will even help you a little bit to free yourself from your old burden. But the final decision must be yours. Because you have to be fully behind it to really let go. But it is important:

• Don’t decide too quickly, take your time. Letting go can be a big step that should never be rushed.
• Be honest with yourself: do you think you will feel better if you let go? Does it help you to free yourself from old ballast? Or do you actually have a completely different problem to deal with?
• Stay in reality: It’s hard to get ahead with what-ifs here, think about how you feel at the moment, in your current situation.

LEARNING ACCEPTANCE

If you have decided to let go, don’t be too hard on yourself and don’t blame yourself. It is not a weakness that you have been holding on to thoughts, things or a certain person. They probably gave you a lot of strength, security or love in the past. Say thank you to them in your thoughts for the time you had with them. This time is over now and you can let them go.

It is understandable that this is painful and difficult for you, and perhaps even frightens you. After all, they have been an important factor in your life in one form or another. If you now reproach yourself for this, you will feel smaller and more insecure. Therefore, try to start the process of letting go with a lot of self-esteem.

LETTING GO IN THOUGHTS

Letting go is a process that first begins in the mind. The following little exercise can help with this:

• Write down what you want to let go of on a piece of paper.
• Take the piece of paper in your outstretched fist and turn it downward.
• Focus on the feelings and thoughts associated with what is written on the piece of paper.
• Let go. Just let the piece of paper fall to the floor.
• What kind of feeling is it? What associations and thoughts are going through your mind? Where can you let go? Where not yet?
• Find a clear conclusion for yourself: Will you take the piece of paper again? Then try to deal openly and calmly with what you are holding in your hand? Do you put it aside for a while or give it to someone else? Or do you even throw it away or burn it?
• The important thing is that you first accept the feeling/thing/person/thought you want to let go of. Then become aware of the feelings and thoughts associated with it and accept them as they are, too. And then ask yourself if you can let go. The answer to this must come from your gut.

OPENNESS AND NO HALF MEASURES

If it’s a person you want to let go of, talk openly with them and make the situation clear. Otherwise, unspoken things may remain in the room and continue to bother you. Therefore, draw a clear line.

Even if it is about thoughts or things, you should try to completely free yourself from them. This can happen gradually, but in the end you should let “everything” go. To do this, it can help if you tell someone you trust about your plan. He or she may be able to support you.

A diary can also help. This will help you structure the difficult part and approach it with reason. This does not mean that you should deny or suppress your feelings. Pain, doubt or uncertainty are part of the process. The important thing is that they don’t stop you from doing what you want to do, and another person or your schedule can help you with that.